Just Say It

I recently had an encounter with a woman who, after I gave her a compliment, was shocked to hear how much she was appreciated! The funny thing was, myself and a few other woman talked often about how much we appreciated and loved her! Why didn't we tell her that?

Why don't we just say it? Why don't we say the nice things we are thinking?

At the risk of tooting my horn here, which I totally am, this is actually something I try to do as often as I can, although I still probably don't do it enough. It was a conscious decision I made a long time ago. If I was going to think, Wow her hair looks great, - why not just be an encouragement and say it?


How many times have you been standing in the grocery store line and thought, "I really like her shirt." or "I love those earrings." or "She has such pretty eyes." Then you go on your merry way to your next errand and never say a word.

Sometimes it probably just doesn't occur to us to say what we are thinking. But it might be that we are too insecure or jealous or afraid to say something nice. I know I feel that way if I feel like I'm "less" than that person. But that's exactly when I should say it - just to get over myself.


There can be so much competition, jealousy and judging between women. It's easy to forget we are on the same side. We are all in this thing called "life" together. Let's build each other up and make allies not enemies!

But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness. Hebrews 3:13 NIV 1984

Of course I'm not saying that we didn't tell the woman mentioned earlier that she was great because we were jealous or felt intimidated by her. It just probably didn't occur to most of us to say that we loved her. Or maybe a few of us did tell her. The point is, we all had talked about how wonderful she was a lot and the she had no idea!

I would encourage you (and myself) that when you are thinking something nice about someone - JUST SAY IT! :) It's a two way street--making other people feel good about themselves will make you feel good, too!

As a side note, I wouldn't recommend doing this TOO much with the opposite sex. They might get the wrong idea. *ahem*